To a fellow father in pain:

Dear Anonymous,

I received notice of your comment that you left here and am desperate to respond directly to you. I am not sure how to do this, though. Do you have any ideas? I am moved to know that this work still reaches others. I very much intended to make this a resource for other men as well as a resource for me; I am grateful to know that it has helped you. I have lots of other material that I can send along if we can find a way to connect.

With regards to my research: I currently have one final semester left in social work graduate school and then I will devote some time to publishing my work on men and miscarriage. The final thesis was just over a hundred pages, so I have a lot of editing ahead of me.

Sarah and I are doing well. We managed through our two miscarriages and had our son nearly two years ago now; he turns two at the end of this month, in fact. We have talked about trying for another once I finish school, but the possibility of another miscarriage scares the shit out of me. I will always live with that fear now. It is a part of me. Every now and again my eye catches the tattoo on my right forearm and I take a moment to remember and feel the reality of our losses.

I am sorry for your loss. My heart feels for you and I hope that you are receiving support from your community of friends and family. If you would like to find a way to connect via email, I would be amenable to that if it would be of help.

Please take care of yourself,

Jeremy